I knw buddy dats true religion were made to teach people how to live an respect but people are still fighting cz of the same issue moreover they ll kill each other buh wud never accept nyone from anotha religion. An u ll find a lots of people here on punjabijanta all of them are young, ajj di generation but dey do the same

Yea hopefully our third generation will get out of these stuff an hw bout da girl u luved wuthappend?

Oh people ar juz too much.. Thats alryt u dun need to tell me anything else i can wonder da situation

Oh people ar juz too much.. Thats alryt u dun need to tell me anything else i can wonder da situation

Yeah.. thnks

 : soch samajh ke karo..
I wonder if your parents or her parents found you a different sikh girl would that be okay or would you still blame religion

True about what that religion is a mess? Galti tussii karo te blame religion te pao how does that make sense

Hey Varun.

Sorry to hear about this man.

Whatever you said is true, but also false at the same time.
Because what religion would mean to a person may not mean the same to another.Everybody is different and they relate themselves to their own religions in different ways.

It's like everyone has a different connection with god, some fear him for being punished, some consider god as their friend and so on.This difference in perception is because everyone is different.

That's really good and sincere of you if wanted to change your religion to her religion, I respect your feelings, but this is definitely not something I would ever suggest to anyone.Never change your religion just for the sake of satisfying your loved one, because you're giving up your own values just so that you could share a life with the one you love, and this might cause you to regret later on in life, this might even upset your parents who have been there for you always.Converting to a religion is legitimate when your own soul is attracted to its religious philosophy, mentality and its way of life and you're deeply convinced that you really "need" to take this on, otherwise not !

This is life man, it hits you hard sometimes.You just need to detach yourself from your emotions for a while, and think in a rational way about what has happened and conclude a meaning from it and let it guide you further.Don't spend too much time judging and holding grudges within because it'll only make it worse.

What you've experienced is something which many others have gone through.I know some Sikh guys who couldn't marry the girl because the family didn't agree because they were Hindu.

In the end it is not the religion to be blamed at all.
Some might place more importance upon their religion than a love relationship and some may not.
It all depends upon the kind of connection they have with their religion, because religion is very personal, and one just needs to respect the other person's perspective regardless of whatever religion they come from.
In this case neither of you (you and the girl) are wrong in my view, it's just a difference of value system and both should just understand and respect that, and move on.I know this sounds not so easy, but I'm, sure you'll cope up and will be fine.

I hope you get my point.I can understand the kind of dilemma you must be going through.
Take this as a life lesson, this will toughen you up and will teach how to manage your emotions better, and you'll be a better judge next time before you fall for somebody because you wouldn't let emotions come before wisdom.
Don't belittle yourself, always look towards the brighter side and hope for the best, may be one day you will find your perfect soul mate, or who knows your parents might find you the perfect one someday.
You're still young man ;) lol.

Life has a lot to offer than just love.Start focusing on the things you want from life, make a list, plan for it and work over it.Channelize this pain into something that will sharpen your focus on being more successful in life rather than letting this pain take control of you and do nothing good to you.
Make that inner shift in yourself, and just follow your dreams.

Keep your chin up and walk tall.
All the best bruv.

Feel free to pm me anytime.
Take care :)

Hey Varun.

Sorry to hear about this man.

Whatever you said is true, but also false at the same time.
Because what religion would mean to a person may not mean the same to another.Everybody is different and they relate themselves to their own religions in different ways.

It's like everyone has a different connection with god, some fear him for being punished, some consider god as their friend and so on.This difference in perception is because everyone is different.

YES EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT SOME WITH WRONG PERCEPTION. THEY SHOULD CHANGE THEIR PERCEPTION.

That's really good and sincere of you if wanted to change your religion to her religion, I respect your feelings, but this is definitely not something I would ever suggest to anyone.Never change your religion just for the sake of satisfying your loved one, because you're giving up your own values just so that you could share a life with the one you love, and this might cause you to regret later on in life, this might even upset your parents who have been there for you always.Converting to a religion is legitimate when your own soul is attracted to its religious philosophy, mentality and its way of life and you're deeply convinced that you really "need" to take this on, otherwise not !

YOU ARE RITE IF SOMEONE IS RELIGIOUS BUT M NOT.

EVEN I AM NOT INTERESTED IN CHANGING ANYONE'S RELIGION. I WAS CHANGING JUST TO MARRY HER. AND YES I DONT REGRET ON MY DECISIONS. SHE WAS MORE VALUBLE FOR ME THAN RELIGION. I DONT HAVE TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH RELIGION BUT WITH HER.

This is life man, it hits you hard sometimes.You just need to detach yourself from your emotions for a while, and think in a rational way about what has happened and conclude a meaning from it and let it guide you further.Don't spend too much time judging and holding grudges within because it'll only make it worse.

What you've experienced is something which many others have gone through.I know some Sikh guys who couldn't marry the girl because the family didn't agree because they were Hindu.

In the end it is not the religion to be blamed at all.

FAMILY OR PEOPLE ARE USING RELIGION IN A WRONG WAY. SO ULTIMATELY IT IS MAKING A MESS FOR OTHERS.

Some might place more importance upon their religion than a love relationship and some may not.
It all depends upon the kind of connection they have with their religion, because religion is very personal, and one just needs to respect the other person's perspective regardless of whatever religion they come from.
In this case neither of you (you and the girl) are wrong in my view, it's just a difference of value system and both should just understand and respect that, and move on.I know this sounds not so easy, but I'm, sure you'll cope up and will be fine.

I RESPECT RELIGIONS BUT IF THE OTHER PERSON'S PERSPECTIVE IS WRONG THEN WE SHOULD CHANGE IT RATHER THAN JUST FOLLOWING IT.
MOVING ON IS THE ONLY OPTION I HAVE.

I hope you get my point.I can understand the kind of dilemma you must be going through.
Take this as a life lesson, this will toughen you up and will teach how to manage your emotions better, and you'll be a better judge next time before you fall for somebody because you wouldn't let emotions come before wisdom.
Don't belittle yourself, always look towards the brighter side and hope for the best, may be one day you will find your perfect soul mate, or who knows your parents might find you the perfect one someday.
You're still young man ;) lol.

Life has a lot to offer than just love.Start focusing on the things you want from life, make a list, plan for it and work over it.Channelize this pain into something that will sharpen your focus on being more successful in life rather than letting this pain take control of you and do nothing good to you.
Make that inner shift in yourself, and just follow your dreams.

Keep your chin up and walk tall.
All the best bruv.

Feel free to pm me anytime.
Take care :)

AND OFF COURSE THAT IS WHAT I THINK..
BUT IF PEOPLE WILL LET IT GO THIS WAY ONLY THEN THIS WILL AGAIN BE THE PROBLEM IF I FELL IN LOVE WITH OTHER GIRL AND AGAIN I HAVE TO LOSE SOMETHING WHICH I DONT WANT. EVENTUALLY I WILL HAVE THE ONLY OPTION - FORGET LOVING.
AND THANKS FOR GIVING YOUR VALUABLE TIME.

MY ONLY THEME WAS THAT :: LOVE YOUR RELIGION BUT DONT USE IT TO MAKE ISSUES AT WRONG PLACE. ALWAYS HAVE RIGHT PERCEPTION OF ANYTHING YOU LOVE. FOLLOW IT IN A RIGHT WAY. IF IT IS WRONG THAN CHANGE IT. DONT MAKE IT A TREND.

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AND YES WHO THINKS OF RELIGION WHILE FALLING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE..

ryderaaaa!!! :hehe: lai gya serious :pagel:

you need a jaffi to cool down bro. :hug:

Tell me one thing, why do you think one should get out of his\her comfort zone to change their perception ? Just because it may not be convenient to you or it doesn't suit your interests ?

ITS NOT ONLY ME WHO IS FACING THIS KIND OF PROBLEM. IF EVERYONE WILL LIMIT THEIRSELF TO THEIR COMFORT ZONE THEN THERE WILL BE NO CHANGE IN THIS WORLD. AND MOREOVER THEY HAVE TO THINK ABOUT THE COMFORT ZONE OF THEIR CHILDREN NOT MINE.

If she thinks the same, then there should not be much of a problem.Did she not try to convince her parents ?

SHE DID. BUT HER PARENTS WERE NOT LISTENING TO HER.

Parents are mature enough to know what is best for their children, because they've been around you know.Can't always blame the parents, because they too know that life cannot be lead happily just because the two love each other.Sometimes before marriage youngsters like tend to overlook many other aspects of life, so the parents feel more cautious about serious big decisions like these.

NOT EVERYONE OUTSIDE IS MATURE ENOUGH.
BUT ITS BETTER TO GO WITH SOMEONE YOU KNOW THAN WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T. AND IF I CONSIDER OTHER ASPECTS THEN I CAN ALSO PROVIDE ALL THESE THINGS THAT THE OTHER PERSON WILL GIVE HER.

This may come as a bit harsh to you, but what you've just said here indicates that you don't want to learn from your experiences, you have no control over your emotions and fantasies and refuse to slam into reality ! What the hell does falling in love fuckin' mean ?! You're still a kid, and later in life you will need to "man up", and when that does happen you will realize that one just doesn't "fall" in love ! Love at first sight is all just "filmy" bullshit ! Are you getting me ?

THAT IS WHAT CALLED ADJUSTING AND PEOPLE START ADJUSTING THEIRSELF ACCORDING TO OTHERS THINKING. I DONT WANNA KEEP ON ADJUSTING MY WHOLE LIFE.
I NEVER FORGET MY PAST AND BETTER KNOW WHEN TO LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE AND WHEN THEIR IS A CHANGE NEEDED.
I DIDNT SAID ANYTHING ABOUT LOVING AT FIRST SIGHT.

EVENTUALLY I WILL HAVE THE ONLY OPTION - FORGET LOVING. > Now this is negative thinking.
I don't mean to tear apart your feelings, but you're sounding too desperate now, and discontented within yourself.As if your whole happiness just simply relies on love.Why does your happiness have to lean over somebody else ? Why the fuckin' hell do you want to be dependent for happiness on somebody else ? Don't chase love, let it come to you.

ABOVE YOU SAY TO LIVE WITH REALITY AND REALITY DOESNT ALLOWING ME TO LOVE OTHER RELIGION GIRL THEN AT THE SAME TIME YOU ARE SAYING 'FORGET LOVING' IS A NEGATIVE THINKING. I CAN'T DO BOTH THING TOGETHER.
I NEVER SAID ALL OF MY HAPPINESS IS LEANED OVER SOMEBODY ELSE.. ITS A PART OF MY HAPPINESS. AND YES I DIDNT CHASED LOVE AND IT CAME TO ME .. SHE CAME TO ME..

Now listen kid, take this as an advice coming from like an elder brother.True love is something which just doesn't happen at first sight, like I said before it is utter non-sense and some mature aged guys are still stuck up in this mentality.
Love is something which "grows" and "develops" (are you hearing me ?), and this whole thing is a two way investment.Attraction is just the first symptom and only the beginning verge of it, but it all depends upon the two if they decide to take it any further from there or not.You'll learn this when you'll grow older.
So don't ever say that like a sissy again that you'll just simply "FALL" in love again !!
That sounds too lame and boyish (don't mean to be rude).
I can feel your pain, and I'm not being heartless with you as it won't serve me any good purpose as well.
You take care of yourself.

YOU MEAN TO SAY THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS.. YOU DONT KNOW OUR LOVE STORY THEN HOW COULD YOU SAY ITS A ATTRACTION.
IN NONE OF MY SENTENCE I WROTE ITS A LOVE OF FIRST SIGHT.

I KNOW THE DEFINITION OF LOVE VERY WELL AND ALSO KNOW HOW TO GROW OR DEVELOP IT WITH FULL RESPONSIBILITY AND UNDERSTANDING.

IT SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE TRYING TO PUT WHOLE THEORY ON MY SINGLE WORDS.

I REALLY APPRECIATE THE WAY YOU HAVE ADJUSTED YOURSELF WITH THE REALITY WORLD. BUT SOMETIMES I PREFER A CHANGE OVER THEM.

FOR WHATEVER I LOST IT NOT GONNA COME TO ME AGAIN.. AND ULTIMATELY I WILL MAKE MY FUTURE BEST BEYOND THIS LEVEL. BUT I ALSO WANT OTHERS TO UNDERSTAND THE REAL THING AND BRING A CHANGE THAT EVERY ONE WANTS.
I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE MARRYING WITH THEIR LOVED ONES OF DIFFERENT RELIGION AND THEY ARE HAPPY WITH THEIR DECISIONS.

I DONT WANT DISCUSS ANY MORE ABOUT THIS TOPIC. OTHERWISE WE BOTH KEEP ON FIGHTING. AND I DONT LIKE FIGHTING..