DATS wht we r known for ......kiwi ,,,,in our culture ..realtions r more thn anything ..we love to care ,,we love to worry about our loved ones ....even if kids dnt care of thier parents ..still d parents r worried abt thm .dey dnt say dat go to hell or other ..parents r second after god for us ...exceptions r always dere but almost 90 % percent of punjabies follow dat culture wherever dey r .....we do sacrifice lot just to bind our family to make altogether forever ..dats wht r taught from childhood frm our parents to respect them because they respect thier own parents nd d love nd affection they give to us ,,u can't find anywhere else ...

well lucky u dat ur gf of punjabi guy ..we do love nd respect  of our daughter in laws ..like our own born  daughters without any prejudices ....dast why punjabies r best in world .....

Yeah i thought so. And yeah, even my bf said i shouldn't move out just yet and to wait  for another year. I told him, this is out my hands, if i'm not allowed in this house then i gotta move out. He's amazing though, he was  like "my parents are your parents now".

Well, You are 17 years old.. I left my home too when i was 17 years old beocz i started living on campus. Thats different scene that they were paying for everything..  :pagel: .. But, I like one thing about western culture is  that kids start understanding their responsibilities at very early age.. so there is nothing wrong about it.. But this thing is very much needed in Punjabi culture..


 in ur case...I think, if u r not earning and u cant take care of urself then u should really think twice before taking this step..

If you move out of your parents, that's it. You no longer rely on them. I can't support myself financially so that's why  i don't want to move out yet. But trust me, if i could, i really would.

I wish my parents asked me to move out. lol
 
In Indian culture you never really "grow up."
 
There are positives and negatives both ways.
 
I agree with KG though, in your scenario, it's more of are you able to move out and survive? Do you really want to? Lots of things you need to ask yourself...

Why don't you? As long as you can support yourself in every way, then i don't see what's stopping you. And yeah i do want to, except i'm not yet 18 and nor financially secure, so can't.

If you can handle it then go ahead move out. Yes your have the extra independence but there's a whole lot of more responsibilities. I moved out right after high school when I was 18, but I do think I will return home at some point to be with and take care of my parents. Though I don't live with my parents I still have a close relationship with them and they understand why I moved. Just talking with each sometimes does wonders :/ 

Good on ya.

Indian people also understand the financial implication of living together. As a unit, its much easier to earn the day to day costs of living. Living on your own, 2 rents, 2 cars, 2 insurances, 2 groceries, etc.. list goes on. As a unit you can share. Very few Indian families are wealthy, they know the value of sticking together. Indian families even stick together even into the extended family. Just that keeping a family close together has so many support benefits as well. (Emotional and financial.)

Our mom and dad's siblings' children are considered out brothers and sisters. This creates a small and efficient network of people that look out for each other. (Most of the time). Sometimes is extends much father than that... but thats pretty much the main group of people.

I honestly don't like the Western way. Its designed to keep people engulfed in the little and meaningless aspects of life. It always makes you worry about your singular goals, which are barely attainable if your on your own and independent. The word independence was created to keep people from coming together. The "West" places too much emphasis on such a stupid word.

There are recent studies... that "White" families are moving toward the family mind set here in North America. Just because of the extreme burdens that are associated with "independence." I will try to find some later on.

In a way, i agree with you. And you pretty much listed the reasons why i can't leave home right now.  :pagel:  Everyone here wants freedom and to be independent.

Did a quick search and...!

This picture suggests that the credit default increase (by country) the longer men, in this case, stay at home. Basically showing that that the economy is dependent on the fact that families need to split and apply for separate mortgages.


Greece is already dead, and the list falls in that order is you look at that graph.


Picture is from the magazine called, The Economist.

Haha interesting.

i did it now is ok try pulling down it is not my lungi i can pull down :D:

Haha what? Just pull it down!!  :

:waitin: :waitin: :waitin: :waitin: :waitin: :D: :D: :D: :D: :D: :D:

Gee don't get too excited.

mean who gonna win league ?

Uh, my money's on man u.

Idiot! i have my license, we have our own car, i'm just not allowed to drive it. I have to buy my own, which i will soon.




This arvo.




Last time you were called an idiot?  :D: :D: :D:

so who gonna u thnk ,,chase all ?

What? What do you mean?

1 thing i've noticed is that indian parenting is very different from kiwi parenting. My bf and his family are tight and his parents seem to really love him and look out for him and his brothers. Would you guys say it's the same with your parents? I've witnessed this on what you hear on the media as well.




Kiwi parenting is very different, our parents don't give a damn about us. You see, my mum just asked me to pack my stuff and move out. She's fed up with me and really just won't take it anymore. I don't even know what i've done!  :angry:  Maybe just a bit but yeah, i've got nothing to apologise for. She's been telling to move out and i want to but i can't atm. In NZ, we're not expected to look after our family, help out or keep in touch with 'em, but it's a really different scenario for my bf and his relationship with his parents. It amazes me.

:okk: :okk: :okk: :okk: :okk: but i cant hear ... :D: :D: :D: :D:

Fool!

ohh dnt explain ur slef i knwo u betta ....so called genius chick

:D: Yeah sure mate.

A month ago.




Last time you made some sandwich?