Author Topic: how to be a bettter partner (Read 2194 times)

*rAbh RaKHA* · « **on:** February 26, 2010, 07:28:46 PM »

how to be a betteh partner

Be romantic.
Whenever a relationship starts to fail, the lack of romance is one of the first indicators. It is very natural for people to get complacent and forget the fun things they used to do when they first got together. A relationship has to be constantly worked on and being romantic is an absolute must.

Never disparage yourself.
Whenever you are disparaging yourself, you are basically saying that you are no good for your partner. If you don't believe that you are good enough for them, then you won't be. It's as simple as that. Don't sit around and beat yourself up over past mistakes, that will only prevent you from trying and succeeding at new things tomorrow.

Always be honest.
There is not one single relationship that will succeed in the long run if built on a lie. Even if your partner never finds out the truth, the fact that you know you lied will affect your feelings for yourself and your partner. With that kind of a hindrance, the relationship will never reach it's full potential.

Do not do things just to keep your partner happy.
How many times have you done something for or to your partner that you really did not want to do, just to make them happy? How did it make you feel? Every time you compromise yourself in that way, a piece of your love for them dies. It is much better to explain to them that you don't feel good about certain things and work on an alternative together.

Do not ask your partner to do things you know they don't want to do.
This is the reverse of the above lesson and fairly self-explanatory. If you know they really don't like doing something, and if that something is for you and of no benefit to them, then why ask them to do it unless you are being selfish or mean?

Do not belittle your partner.
Everyone makes mistakes in life and everyone works or catches on at different speeds. If you spend your time nagging at your partner or putting them down about every little thing they do wrong, then how can you expect them to do anything right? Do you want a life-partner or a puppy dog?

Do not put off things you have promised to do.
Trust is an important part of any relationship and it needs to be developed. If you say you are going to do something and don't, then how can your partner rely on you in the future?

Always be there for your partner.
Nothing is more important in your life than your partner. Friends come and go, as do children, but your partner is with you for the whole journey. If they are in trouble or need you, nothing else matters, other than to be there for them.

Communicate.
Things change in a relationship almost on a daily basis. If you don't talk to your partner you could very easily wake up one day and find that you have drifted too far apart to bridge the gap.

Do not commit adultery or other harmful acts against your relationship.
This one is really self-explanatory. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than infidelity or wrong doings.

Treat your partner with respect.
It is extremely easy to take someone for granted and once you start to cross that line, it is very difficult to go back. Be careful not to treat your partner worse than you would treat your best friend.

Be open and receptive to your partner's wants and wishes.
It takes two people to have a relationship and when you shut one of them out because you are not open to their ideas and wishes then you really don't have a relationship at all. Always be open and receptive to what they say. Also, be open to new experiences and ideas, you never know what you might learn.

Punjabi Janta Forums - Janta Di Pasand · « **on:** February 26, 2010, 07:28:46 PM »

Steppenwolf · « **Reply #1 on:** February 26, 2010, 08:05:51 PM »

Being romantic is over rated. You give a desi kuri some flowers ohne ghar jandi nu, phul kithe sit dehna aa... because maa te baapu nu putha na lag jave kisi munde naal fir di aa. Chocolate devo... ohne kehna main moti ho jaana...

ehmi money waste if ask me. :woried:

*rAbh RaKHA* · « **Reply #2 on:** February 26, 2010, 08:07:03 PM »

Quote from: Kerfuffle on February 26, 2010, 08:05:51 PM

Being romantic is over rated. You give a desi kuri some flowers ohne ghar jandi nu, phul kithe sit dehna aa... because maa te baapu nu putha na lag jave kisi munde naal fir di aa. Chocolate devo... ohne kehna main moti ho jaana...

ehmi money waste if ask me. :woried:

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: common.. well it deosn;t matteh wah that kuri do with floweres or choclate..buh u can gift it to her na.. nahe.. buh ya alwayz get away by saying waste of money

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