Author Topic: The 90/10 principle (Read 1438 times)

SonnenKinder · « **on:** May 17, 2010, 07:34:00 AM »

Discover this 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (or atleast the way you react to situations).

WHAT IS THIS PRINCIPLE?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you...
90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean?

We really have NO control over the 10% of what happens to us.
The 90% is different.
YOU determine the 90%

How?

By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light.
However, you can control your reaction.

Do not let people fool you.
YOU can control how you react.

Let's see this example:

You are having breakfast with your family.
Your younger sister knocks over a cup of coffee onto your shirt.

YOU HAVE NO CONTROL

over what has just happened.
What happens next will be determined byHOW YOU REACT.

You curse.
You harshly scold your sister for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your mum and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal argument follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your sister has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your mum must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your sister to school.

Because you are late,
you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away,
you arrive at school.
Your sister runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving the uni. 20 minutes late,
you realize your forgot your assignments.

Your day has started terrible.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find a small wedge
in your relationship with your sister.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is: D

You had NO CONTROL over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day!

Here is what could have and should have happened.
<<<

Coffee splashes over you.
Your sister is about to cry.

You gently say:
"It's okay, honey, you just need to be more careful next time."

Grabbing a towel, you go upstairs and change your shirt.
You grab your backpack, and come back down in time to look through the window and see your sister getting on the bus.
She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and exchange greetings with your classmates.
...
Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios.
Both started the same.
Both ended different.

why?

Because of how you reacted.

You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Absolutely everything we do, give, say or even think,
It's like a Boomerang.
It will come back to us.
If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first...
Maybe we will end with our hands half empty, but our hearts will be filled with love.

And those who love life,
have that feeling marked in their hearts...

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The 90/10 principle

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