Author Topic: Question - Optium Age of Getting Married and Kids (Read 5468 times)

Jhanda_Amli · « **on:** June 07, 2010, 08:15:42 AM »

Background:
I got a friend .. He is from Muslim Culture so as a part of the culture he got married soon - That is fine part of culture. Actually he was 20 when he married a girl who was 19. I am fine with that - No big deal, part of the culture and parents agree so they married.

Now the next thing, last week the couple had a baby ... Baby is a beautiful baby girl, I seen some of her picture and she is adorable.

Now I congrats them but I had something stuck in my mind - The guy is 21 (in his 3rd year) and the girl is 20 (in second year) and they got an extra stomach to feed. - Now do they ask the money for the Kid Needs (food, milk etc) from their parents cause both exclusively studing. And how do they ask it - Like daddy I need money for Kids Diapers (what the hell - A bit messed up NO?)
Isn't you should be responsible enough before you think of marriage or a Kid?

Now Question:
Everyone is falling in love on PJ... But Love means commitment (which is Marriage - RIGHT?)... So to the lovers, At what age you think you gonna get married / When you gonna get a kid.

As a reply, I don't want to see someone talking about how to make babies or talking BS about Muslim culture (spreading hatred). <- Just Stick to the topic and Be a adult here.

Punjabi Janta Forums - Janta Di Pasand · « **on:** June 07, 2010, 08:15:42 AM »

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #1 on:** June 07, 2010, 08:18:22 AM »

I probably wont get married till like 29-30 yrs .. may be 32 <- May be one reason I don't like getting committed ... cause what if the girl I find is in a Hustle .. Damn I will be screwed earlier ..

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More on that later.. You Guys Talk :happy:

Y "BB" · « **Reply #2 on:** June 07, 2010, 08:22:54 AM »

i guess perfect age according to me is 25 to 26

eh age bilkul perfect aa
n n if u r plannin fr kids then perfect age is 28 to 30 years.

n jhande as u r talkin aba committment.. bilkul sai aa... vyah bohat h important aa.. te estoh v jada imoprtant eh aa.. ki sai waqt te hove...
te pyar ch peina bura nahi aa
par pyar nu nibhana bohat jaruri aa
jo ajj kal di generation de vas da kam nahi rea...

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #3 on:** June 07, 2010, 08:54:31 AM »

: .. Jhalliye tu we teh esse generation de aa.. :pagel:

Extra thought-
- I dont know ... Sometimes I feel like Girls are more inclined to get married then guys (sooner) .. enna ne patta ke jawaka de Diaper we change karne ne badh wich :pagel:

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TheStig · « **Reply #4 on:** June 07, 2010, 09:09:36 AM »

Interesting

Am 23 and I haven't thought of getting married yet. I am not a student anymore and I can feed 2-3 people no worries. I am not scared of commitment or there is no problem in getting married once you think you are settled and your not going to ask anyone for help sooner or later.
Perfect age is when you realy think you will be able to survive with responsibilites on your shoulder, some people get married because all they want is to get their love with him/her ASAP but that soon turns into a big mess and they wana get away from each other.
Age is not the issue , just think few things before you even think of getting married
-Are you able to serve your parents yet?
-Are you able to feed your wife?
-Have you finished your main duties/responsibilities towards your parents?
-is the girl/boy going to respect your parents?
There are so many factors you have to consider
I am not from a rich family so I have to think about these things before even getting into any serious relationship,I had a gf that left me for some reason. But I was committed to her. Be honest to the one you want to be with.
Rest apa sare samjhdar aa

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #5 on:** June 07, 2010, 09:15:14 AM »

nice thought.. I like - We play in the simlar kind of ballpark I guess.

Let me put you in the spot light - Rahul nu ajj kal Rishtey aunde ne .. So i have to ask it

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Assume you have to give it a number - Age wise?- What number you think you will give when you will make up to the above list of responsibilities? :happy:

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P.S. - This is fun..

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TheStig · « **Reply #6 on:** June 07, 2010, 09:23:24 AM »

Eh simple language ch mei jo dasseya ehio mei chaunda han bas hor kuch ni ji.

Baaki rest
Off topic - no comments

Jhande veere sudhar jao

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #7 on:** June 07, 2010, 09:25:44 AM »

No No.. The topic says Optium age of getting married

Pick a Number (age) ... Why You Shy Rahul ... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

- We wont tell the number to your "Karde" (home).. Promise ... :happy:

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ƁΔƘΓΔ · « **Reply #8 on:** June 07, 2010, 09:30:27 AM »

pyaar vich sama bahut lgda jhandeya, sida viah karlo. Te 5-6 bache jama karlo, te khelo gulli danda.

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #9 on:** June 07, 2010, 09:34:26 AM »

Quote from: Billu Bakra on June 07, 2010, 09:30:27 AM

pyaar vich sama bahut lgda jhandeya, sida viah karlo. Te 5-6 bache jama karlo, te khelo gulli danda.

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Aa we gal sahi aa.. but 5-6 jawak ho geyye teh Diaper we jadda ho janne ne mitra.. enne diaper kon change karoo

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Billu are you married? If not when you thinking of getting married / when you gonna have ur 5-6 kids (gulli Danda Team) :pagel: - And Please a Number

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P.S. - Rahul Still owns me a Number

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ƁΔƘΓΔ · « **Reply #10 on:** June 07, 2010, 02:46:12 PM »

Optimum age to get married = 21 years
fer aish karo, jdo marji bache peyda karlo

*rAbh RaKHA* · « **Reply #11 on:** June 07, 2010, 02:52:58 PM »

hmmm
rahul ji ne point bahut sohne dassee..marraige is not jus for fun oh challo ji munda kuri luv suv karde letz jus get married baki badh ch vekhi jayogi ..bahut sarian responisbilties ayondian ne.. jinna nu nibayon joge ho ke hi veyah karvayna cahhida..

..appan tan veyah ni ni karvayona so age dasan da kifayeda :pagel: :pagel:

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #12 on:** June 07, 2010, 04:08:21 PM »

: Billu - I guess I am getting older then

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Quote from: ღвυℓвυℓღ on June 07, 2010, 02:52:58 PM

hmmm
rahul ji ne point bahut sohne dassee..marraige is not jus for fun oh challo ji munda kuri luv suv karde letz jus get married baki badh ch vekhi jayogi ..bahut sarian responisbilties ayondian ne.. jinna nu nibayon joge ho ke hi veyah karvayna cahhida..

..appan tan veyah ni ni karvayona so age dasan da kifayeda :pagel: :pagel:

Galla kath karoo Teh Pick a Number. :happy:

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Rubbie · « **Reply #13 on:** June 07, 2010, 04:22:47 PM »

I ‘ve never given a serious thought to this issue…..
But after reading the comments of all ….. I think I agree with CN 47 ji…
Actually Marriage is not a "one size fits all" type of thing….
More than age wat is more important ….is Maturity level of the partners….their mental preparedness..
Depends whether u r financially and emotionally ready for the commitment….or not..
Even your selection of a mate will be based totally on how grown up you are..i.e maturity level again…
Coz finding the right person is itself a very difficult task …..
So I feel that there is no appropriate age for marriage…. .. it iz the mental preparedness …
So the right time is when both partners are mature enough to endure a lifelong relationship.

and Amli ji if u still insist on picking up a number then i think am not ready till 27-28... :happy:

_noXiouS_ · « **Reply #14 on:** June 07, 2010, 04:25:17 PM »

i thought that said opium and it was an instant attraction

: for now im gonna go sleep

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #15 on:** June 07, 2010, 04:34:24 PM »

Quote from: Pragmatic on June 07, 2010, 04:22:47 PM

I ‘ve never given a serious thought to this issue…..
But after reading the comments of all ….. I think I agree with CN 47 ji…
Actually Marriage is not a "one size fits all" type of thing….
More than age wat is more important ….is Maturity level of the partners….their mental preparedness..
Depends whether u r financially and emotionally ready for the commitment….or not..
Even your selection of a mate will be based totally on how grown up you are..i.e maturity level again…
Coz finding the right person is itself a very difficult task …..
So I feel that there is no appropriate age for marriage…. .. it iz the mental preparedness …
So the right time is when both partners are mature enough to endure a lifelong relationship.

and Amli ji if u still insist on picking up a number then i think am not ready till 27-28... :happy:

I guess Pragmatic hang around with too many White Kids :pagel:

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So you 28-29 and I am 30 - 31 ... Perfect match.. Damn wat we waiting for..

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- Well My whole point of posting this is... You Saying Love you to anyone.. Are you ready to old with the person.. That is why I am asking for a Number..

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TheStig · « **Reply #16 on:** June 07, 2010, 06:48:55 PM »

thanks pragmatic ji and roop ji for supporting my views
That's what I think

Jhanda veere if your not that old then you can get married , You seem to be very desparate :wait: . Don't worry we are here , we can take care of everything. Just don't forget to invite us :happy:

I owe u a number 25 may be? so ya girls have 2 years to impress me ! :waitin:
which will never happen.
kiddin hun khush jhanda singh ji

*rAbh RaKHA* · « **Reply #17 on:** June 07, 2010, 07:17:12 PM »

thanks pragmatic ji and roop ji for supporting my views
That's what I think

Jhanda veere if your not that old then you can get married , You seem to be very desparate :wait: . Don't worry we are here , we can take care of everything. Just don't forget to invite us :happy:

I owe u a number 25 may be? so ya girls have 2 years to impress me ! :waitin:
which will never happen.
kiddin hun khush jhanda singh ji

haha rahul ji.. a gurl can never impress ya. wow.. letz c wot happens.. :wait: :wait:

well laghda tan edha hi eh .. rajje kamlo is so desperate to get marry..chalo rahul ji ehna de hath peele kariye..pj di kisse kuri nu push lende if they r interested in him?? wah say :pagel: :pagel:

*rAbh RaKHA* · « **Reply #18 on:** June 07, 2010, 07:20:00 PM »

Quote from: Jhanda Amli on June 07, 2010, 04:08:21 PM

: Billu - I guess I am getting older then : :pagel:

Galla kath karoo Teh Pick a Number. :happy:

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ok i think the best age to get marry is 23-25..
get engaged with the person for a year or so..thne get to know each otheh..n then jado sahi lagge ohdo committed ho javo

Kudrat Kaur · « **Reply #19 on:** June 07, 2010, 07:30:58 PM »

hmm..This is really very serious issue for me these dayz..I wud like to answer little seriously abt it..
I totally Agree with Codename 47 and after him with Pragmatic .Really very mature answers..

For me, Everbody suggest I shud get married now rather I shud say compelled. But I really think one shud be mentally,Physically, Economically Prepared for this.In my case,I want to achieve something in my prefessional career and it will take atleast year or year and half..
I wud not like to be burden for him but I wish that he can look upon me for any kind of support including economically if he will need that..So, I am doing my best for this atleast before marriage i wud like to have my own house here..(just one short term goal)..Rest, for me its 27 but i dont know I want my parents to be happy too more than me..

Baki Jhanda Amliji, Tusi Diapers di baali fikar karde ho..Those r not so expensive..Appa tuhanu PJ teh Cheap deal available karavnage..and I hope PJ wud love to help u for that.. :happy:

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