Author Topic: This is the difference between eastern and western culture (Read 13825 times)

҂ ȿḉặᵰɗἷἧäѷїѧҋ↔ᶀɍǐȶĩṧӊ ₰ · « **on:** March 12, 2011, 07:16:51 PM »

You guys would think arrange marriage is a "normal" thing, but this is what happens in the western culture.

Jesse Bender. (Photo supplied)

She's 13 years old, her step dad is from pakistan and she was to be sent away to pakistan to be put on an arranged marriage. She ran away and was reported missing by her mum and step dad.

Punjabi Janta Forums - Janta Di Pasand · « **on:** March 12, 2011, 07:16:51 PM »

Ķιℓℓα Ķαuя · « **Reply #1 on:** March 12, 2011, 08:22:09 PM »

first of all shes way too young to be getting married when normally in western countries and even in India (not sure about Pakistan) to be registered as married have to be at least 18 or older ...shes 13 :lost: and then if her step dad is the one sending her to Pakistan ...why didn't her mother oppose it? she could of right? lol and the running away thing exists in Indian culture as well and its looked up as a shame on the family ...as most families in Indian culture think respect is everything. and an child taking such step is considered shameful.

Kudrat Kaur · « **Reply #2 on:** March 12, 2011, 10:30:23 PM »

not a good example for comparison.. there could be many reasons for this in this particular case other than culture behind the picture..

As Killa said, Most of us are Indians here and minimum legal age for marriage for girls in India is 18 years old and for boys its 21 years old..

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #3 on:** March 12, 2011, 10:44:56 PM »

western - US
Eastern - Japan

Kudrat Kaur · « **Reply #4 on:** March 12, 2011, 11:07:22 PM »

When we talk about culture then
Western World
i.e. Europe, the Americas (North and South America), Israel, Australia and New Zealand.

Eastern World

India, China, Japan, Korea, Pakistan, Sri lanka, Afganistan and Burma ( Asian Countries)

ਕਰਮਵੀਰ ਸਿੰਘ · « **Reply #5 on:** March 12, 2011, 11:56:10 PM »

yes western nd eastern culture is different in many aspects.
As elle told that a paki dad wants her daughter to get married in age of 13. Nw in these days people think its nt good bt years ago it was very common. Girls got married under the age of 15. Bt nobdy can say it was bad . Our forefathers had a scientific thinking. I think u will laugh when u read this line bt i have an xplanation.
" our grandparants known to this very well that a girl under 18 is nt able to handle the married life nd even it is dangerous to be a mother . So they just arranged the marriage as a formality nd keep the girl with them untill she became mature. After 18 she was sent to her husband's house.

In this modern world it's felt odd that parents r arranging thier children's life bt still they know better . Western govt.s give full freedom to the children nd then issue surveys abt how many girls under 18 got preganant nd looks worrid abt the facts. This looks like parents has no right to take care of thier children."
So every culture has it's own costoms traditions nd they r lawfull according to that culture. People frm other culture can't understand why. So everybdy is right. If u try to argue then it will get worse. So chill nd enjoy.

I accept that our forefathers were more modern in their time than we r in this modern world.

Jhanda_Amli · « **Reply #6 on:** March 12, 2011, 11:59:21 PM »

Quote from: Kudrat K. Grewal on March 12, 2011, 11:07:22 PM

When we talk about culture then
Western World
i.e. Europe, the Americas (North and South America), Israel, Australia and New Zealand.

Eastern World

India, China, Japan, Korea, Pakistan, Sri lanka, Afganistan and Burma ( Asian Countries)

i was just kididng around.. tusse teh serious he ho geye mallko :hehe:

_FaTeH_ · « **Reply #7 on:** March 13, 2011, 12:19:25 AM »

SO SAD BADA GAND PAYA YAAR INA PAKISTANI NE SPECIALLY EVEN IN UK TOP LIST UTTE NE PPAKISTANI APNE KIDS DI FROCE MARRY VICH ,,, LAST MONTH ONE PAKISTAN MAN HE HAD 2 DAUGHTER AND 2 BOY AND HIS BROTHER WAS IN PAKISTAN HE GOT 2 BOY OH BHI DIVORSED AND APNE BRO NU KAHNDA APNI KUDIYA DA VIAH KARDE MERE MUNDIYA NAAL ONNE MANA KARTA HE KILLED HIS BROTHER WHO WENT TO PAKISTAN FOR HOLIDAY INDIAN DO TH SOME BUT BIG LIST TOP PAKISTANI , BCZ THEY BELIEVE KUDI NU APNE ISLAM VICH CONVERT KARAN DA BEST IDEA AND THING GOD WILL BLESS THEM IDIOUT

SEEE THT LINKS

http://www.lawandparents.co.uk/child-was-forced-marry-case-study.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1319881/British-mother-parents-killed-arranged-marriage-row-Pakistan.html

Kudrat Kaur · « **Reply #8 on:** March 13, 2011, 01:29:04 AM »

@ Dafa Hona.. Sorry , I didn't know that .. :smile:

@ Fateh.. You can't condemned whole country on the basis of few examples . And studies u r talking about could be represented in concerned with India too.. And Always remember, Pakistan was part of India.. and Mainly punjab.. so when u r disgusting Pakistan this means its against Punjab too..

kujh samjhiya Sade Kake ( Angry young man) :pagel:

@ Elle.. As far arrange marriages r concerned.. Divorce Rate in India is 1.1% in comparison to US where it is 45.8%.. :smile:

•°o.O тîтℓєє O.o°• · « **Reply #9 on:** March 13, 2011, 06:44:22 PM »

How is sending a girl to Pakistan and getting her married base for comparison for eastern and western cultures?

I understand that this is unfortunate but this doesn't represent eastern/western culture.

B̲l̲i̲n̲g̲ · « **Reply #10 on:** March 13, 2011, 06:52:16 PM »

ehe ki aa meinu samjh ni lagggi :dnk: :dnk: :dnk:

҂ ȿḉặᵰɗἷἧäѷїѧҋ↔ᶀɍǐȶĩṧӊ ₰ · « **Reply #11 on:** March 14, 2011, 06:03:30 AM »

Quote from: Ķιℓℓα Ķαuя on March 12, 2011, 08:22:09 PM

first of all shes way too young to be getting married when normally in western countries and even in India (not sure about Pakistan) to be registered as married have to be at least 18 or older ...shes 13 :lost: and then if her step dad is the one sending her to Pakistan ...why didn't her mother oppose it? she could of right? lol and the running away thing exists in Indian culture as well and its looked up as a shame on the family ...as most families in Indian culture think respect is everything. and an child taking such step is considered shameful.

Her mother didn't remarry that pakistani dude without a reason. They obviously love each other and now, she's being brainwashed by him thinking it's right to send her daughter away for arranged marriage. I don't know anything about the age of majority of pakistan but that's it was said. Yes, i know she's way too young. And does it really? But it barely happens right? Because as you said, in indian culture, it's looked down upon. Whereas us westerners, we're too stubborn and strong enough not to put up with this kind o' crap.

Quote from: Kudrat K. Grewal on March 12, 2011, 11:07:22 PM

When we talk about culture then
Western World
i.e. Europe, the Americas (North and South America), Israel, Australia and New Zealand.

Eastern World

India, China, Japan, Korea, Pakistan, Sri lanka, Afganistan and Burma ( Asian Countries)

Israel is not considered a western world.

Quote from: §¤§ KARAM §¤§ on March 12, 2011, 11:56:10 PM

yes western nd eastern culture is different in many aspects.
As elle told that a paki dad wants her daughter to get married in age of 13. Nw in these days people think its nt good bt years ago it was very common. Girls got married under the age of 15. Bt nobdy can say it was bad . Our forefathers had a scientific thinking. I think u will laugh when u read this line bt i have an xplanation.
" our grandparants known to this very well that a girl under 18 is nt able to handle the married life nd even it is dangerous to be a mother . So they just arranged the marriage as a formality nd keep the girl with them untill she became mature. After 18 she was sent to her husband's house.

In this modern world it's felt odd that parents r arranging thier children's life bt still they know better . Western govt.s give full freedom to the children nd then issue surveys abt how many girls under 18 got preganant nd looks worrid abt the facts. This looks like parents has no right to take care of thier children."
So every culture has it's own costoms traditions nd they r lawfull according to that culture. People frm other culture can't understand why. So everybdy is right. If u try to argue then it will get worse. So chill nd enjoy.

I accept that our forefathers were more modern in their time than we r in this modern world.

This isn't her dad. Her mum and biological dad separated therefore, now her mum remarried a pakistani dude.

Quote from: Kudrat K. Grewal on March 13, 2011, 01:29:04 AM

@ Dafa Hona.. Sorry , I didn't know that .. :smile:

@ Fateh.. You can't condemned whole country on the basis of few examples . And studies u r talking about could be represented in concerned with India too.. And Always remember, Pakistan was part of India.. and Mainly punjab.. so when u r disgusting Pakistan this means its against Punjab too..

kujh samjhiya Sade Kake ( Angry young man) :pagel:

@ Elle.. As far arrange marriages r concerned.. Divorce Rate in India is 1.1% in comparison to US where it is 45.8%.. :smile:

Hahaha yes, the difference is that, if people in this part of the world have had enough, they've had enough! they get divorced. But! that's not the case though in india or the eastern societies right? Because they shouldn't do that, you guys are taught to stick with what you've got no matter how badly you don't want it.

Quote from: •°o.O тîтℓєє O.o°• on March 13, 2011, 06:44:22 PM

How is sending a girl to Pakistan and getting her married base for comparison for eastern and western cultures?

I understand that this is unfortunate but this doesn't represent eastern/western culture.

Just showing the difference. In india, the girl(no matter how much she wants to) but still wouldn't run away. In the western society, girls would run away from this.

_noXiouS_ · « **Reply #12 on:** March 16, 2011, 11:48:11 AM »

Quote from: ✄※ḨҰĐṜØŞŦẨ₮ῘḈŜ [size=1em

Just showing the difference. In india, the girl(no matter how much she wants to) but still wouldn't run away. In the western society, girls would run away from this.[/size]

As far as, eloping is concerned in India (can't speak for the entire eastern world), the reason most don't make the decision is because afterwards they have nothing to fall back on. There you don't have opporutnities like going out getting a job, etc... to get on your feet. You're more dependent upon your family for financial comforts.

I feel like, here you are trying to say that western girls are more strong-willed, in that case, I would say this is a pretty bad example to support your case.

҂ ȿḉặᵰɗἷἧäѷїѧҋ↔ᶀɍǐȶĩṧӊ ₰ · « **Reply #13 on:** March 17, 2011, 05:40:49 AM »

Any one of us, the chicks or the chaps, would not put up with this, so yes that makes us strong willed. Don't say, you're encouraging people to have arrange marriage or some sort. That may be ok for you guys, not for us though. Especially if the marriage just ain't goin' anywhere, there's no reason to stay. We live our life, we get a life, we get a job, we fall, we bounce back up. We don't depend on anyone. That's how we're brought up.

JATT KHADKU KHADA! · « **Reply #14 on:** March 27, 2011, 09:48:05 PM »

Here girl’s mother is daft as a brush. In today’s world, what lady will send her daughter to Pakistan, to get hitched?!!!

When push comes to shove any human will do what needs to be done ( come what may ).

It ain’t the Western/Eastern world or any cultural background that plays the role. That’s what I reckon.

҂ ȿḉặᵰɗἷἧäѷїѧҋ↔ᶀɍǐȶĩṧӊ ₰ · « **Reply #15 on:** March 28, 2011, 05:16:50 AM »

Quote from: [Vivacious] on March 27, 2011, 09:48:05 PM

Here girl’s mother is daft as a brush. In today’s world, what lady will send her daughter to Pakistan, to get hitched?!!!

When push comes to shove any human will do what needs to be done ( come what may ).

It ain’t the Western/Eastern world or any cultural background that plays the role. That’s what I reckon.

The mothers screwing a pakistani, what do you expect. :

_noXiouS_ · « **Reply #16 on:** March 28, 2011, 10:19:28 AM »

Regardless, if the mother is western as well, she should have the balls to protect her daughter. Coward!

҂ ȿḉặᵰɗἷἧäѷїѧҋ↔ᶀɍǐȶĩṧӊ ₰ · « **Reply #17 on:** March 29, 2011, 04:48:42 AM »

Quote from: _noXiouS_ on March 28, 2011, 10:19:28 AM

Regardless, if the mother is western as well, she should have the balls to protect her daughter. Coward!

Yeah, now look what happened, she ran away!!! :D:

_noXiouS_ · « **Reply #18 on:** March 29, 2011, 01:55:13 PM »

Quote from: ✄※ḨҰĐṜØŞŦẨ₮ῘḈŜ on March 29, 2011, 04:48:42 AM

Quote from: _noXiouS_ on March 28, 2011, 10:19:28 AM

Regardless, if the mother is western as well, she should have the balls to protect her daughter. Coward!
Yeah, now look what happened, she ran away!!! :D:

wonders, where a 13 year old alone and without money would end up... :happy:

JATT KHADKU KHADA! · « **Reply #19 on:** March 29, 2011, 02:46:38 PM »

This ain't an example to show comparison. THE END.

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