One of life's great fascinations is watching people evolve over time. Some people grow and develop, while others seem to be stuck in patterns that limit their happiness and well-being. Others excel in certain areas of their lives  but they fail miserably in others :pagel: . A small few are spectacularly successful by conventional measures yet are perpetually dissatisfied (rare case hunda wai eh ta). Is there a simple model we can use to make sense of these observations? Chalo soch k wekhde a

Chalo main apne vichaar sanjhe karda a .. jo muh ch auna main baki jana

Lets look back for a moment .. flashback ch jane a and lets see how we evolved in our life, we were born, we were totally dependent on parents and other elderly members, to nurture us, so basically we DRAGGED THROUGH that phase of life, without having any worries about future or financial situations, etc. Har wele Ma pey ya koi wadaa bhen bharaa koley hunda c .. we loved the attention around us although we hardly ever knew what its worth for but nevertheless it was our first introducti9on to the world, we played, we did all we would ever wish for right now in our unconscious, right at that time. It was a good time of life, no doubt.

Then came a day when you found yourself holding your father's finger and you would have thought that he is just taking me for another walk by the trees, yet so early in the morning and before you knew it, you landed in a 1000 more like you, a place called "School", your peace of mind vanished, you had no idea about what the heck was going on, and all you did was burst our your true emotions i.e. cry in the sea of tears in front of dad and he ended up calling those magarmach de aansu... chalo time passed on .. we compromised with the situation long..

After all.. that was the moulding phase ... high school chalda reha... wadey hoye ... we started noticing girls.... cursh hon lag paya .. teachers te ... kuriyaan te .. shaintani sujhan lag payee ... moti gal eh ki jawani chad gayee .. That was probably a NICE TIME .... jine badmaash banana c o bigar gaya .. jine IIT clear kar k 20 lakh di naurki karni c o kitaabi keera ban gaya te jehre baaki wehle c o aashqi karde rahe .. very fast phase of life when you graduate from high school, and 11 12 ta uda hi nikal jandi c degree v 4 saal di ae hi muk jandi c ...

So, we graduated, even if ro pit k ... supplimentriyaan clear ho giyaan .. hun naukri kehra labhe ... safarishaan pawao .. eh karo o karo ... zameenaa wecho ji , sade munde ne bahar jana amrikaaa .. Some did end up landing in foreign countries, some went into family business, others, kuch nasheyaan jogey reh gaye .. others i hardly have a clue, but yeah 23-27 age ... full freedom for ppl like me who were away from home, a perfect chance to rejuvinate or spoil ones life, for others, likewise the same but just the difference being that they had the shadow of family back home .... anyways ... by the time you turn 28 which is my age.. you do undergo a change, well its off a personal experience but since I have been a much worse person ,... so lets not go into that ...

coming back to the topic, no experience after this but speculations would say that you do get married and you have responsibilities, kids, etc and u start worrying about each and every penny, then your children have children and they throw you out of the house, you just end up feeling if it was all worth it, putting your entire life at stake just for this moment .. but just to add a note, if one never changes himself, he hardly regrets his life, on one conditions that he has the FEAR OF GOD IN HIS HEART...

So j hun tak neend nahi aayee ta daseyo apne vichaar sanjhe karna ki kehra phase of life according to you is good and why ??

dhanwaad ji

Supreet :pagel:

After all.. that was the moulding phase ... high school chalda reha... wadey hoye ... we started noticing girls.... cursh hon lag paya .. teachers te ... kuriyaan te .. shaintani sujhan lag payee ... moti gal eh ki jawani chad gayee .. That was probably a NICE TIME .... jine badmaash banana c o bigar gaya .. jine IIT clear kar k 20 lakh di naurki karni c o kitaabi keera ban gaya te jehre baaki wehle c o aashqi karde rahe .. very fast phase of life when you graduate from high school, and 11 12 ta uda hi nikal jandi c degree v 4 saal di ae hi muk jandi c ...

According to me it was the freedom one.

I came to Australia about 6 years ago I was 18 when I landed here after high school. I could have used my freedom to do whatever I want but I didn't.

Let me tell you all , I am not from a Rich family . So all I did was learn to live life, work hard, study , manage the time , social life etc etc.

I guess this is the phase that is much more important than everything else because we have a supervisors when we grow up (parents / family)

But when people see freedom they tend to do those things that they shouldn't be doing. People start drinking, smoking , go clubbing , go dance parties , do sh*t they shouldn't be doing.

So if you can control on these things , you know what you will get  :smile:

Baki  :rabb: Rab sareya nu akal bakhse

good one bai . I second your thought except for that fact that I took my freedom for granted for some time and eventually landed in a pool of aloofness.. but then I guess maturity comes with experience and not age .. Thanks for sharing indepth bro

Maturity comes when you know what your doing.

If you see all the shiny things in life that means your not mature enough

Hanji dowein jaane sahi kehnde o ... chalo fir good bache ban k vote v kar deo :pagel:

Haha hanji ... eh mauka v changa a .. fir ta pj te hi kise naal end up ho jana main :happy:

Hanji hanji veere ... its about time :happy: .. jidan mara jeha shak peya ki ehi a oho .. naale hi chak leni :superhappy:

Hanji hanji veere ... its about time :happy: .. jidan mara jeha shak peya ki ehi a oho .. naale hi chak leni :superhappy:

chakkan chakaun wala kaum aukha
gym shuru karleya :happy:

je nahi ta kardo

veere... main apne bai di wait karda c india toh aun di .. fir yale da gym join karna c par udey aun toh 1 din pehla main apni left elbow fracture karaa lee :pagel:

damn
man be careful , thand ch kam khrab ho janda make sure you keep it safe
ek kam karo join the gym when you thinks your absolutely fine

nah dont do it
its not worth it

do everythig with a proper plan

ask mullanpuria for a plan or i can send you one

but bai ji .. jado bone repair v ho gee .. do u think i can use it to lift wieghts

tuhanu kine keha ki mai gym jande hi  22 22 kilo de dumbell chakke si

you start off with light weights
get to know the proper technique osto baad withing 4-5 months you need to increase the weight

you have to look what you have to eat. whats you goal
i was 57 when i started gym now i weight 70 kilos its pure muscle

so u tell me what you want to do.

make a thread in fitness section