Author Topic: Forced Marriage or Marriage under Pressure (Read 12467 times)

█ ▌ﻝαᔕ ▌█ · « **on:** June 27, 2012, 10:02:39 PM »

"I thought marriage would be breeze, living with the person I love all the time, sex
without worries or guilt. No one mentioned the down side."

Ernest Hemingway was a brilliant writer, but he said, "Life is just a dirty trick a journey from
nothingness to nothingness." He married four times, became an alcoholic and committed
suicide.

Lots of people find their love has run out. Their emotions have changed. The effort just
doesn't feel worth it.

Do most marriages feel like this? Probably, at some time.
Do we just change to a newer model spouse? Hemingway did. But there is another way -
Here are six pointers to a good marriage; see how your marriage could be spiced up or if
you are not married yet, see if this would work for you.

1) Marry your best friend, and stay best friends
Work at it. Spend enough time with each other. Talk to each other, even when it is an
effort. Say something nice to each other every day, especially "I love you". Pay
compliments. Most people are surprised at the changes they have to make, for marriage to
work.

2) Be careful what you say; words can hurt
Disagree without being disagreeable! Be respectful and kind to your partner. You don't
know how they are feeling inside. Listen! (which means stop talking while you do!) Don't
sulk or withdraw. Say sorry to each other. Is your encouragement needed, or help with
money worries or children?

3) Fire burns! Beware opposite sex friendships
The other man's grass often looks greener, but it still needs mowing! More second
marriages break up than first, and third than second. Your own grass can be greener if it is
watered! Think back to why you were keen to get married. What things can you do to
restore that friendship?

4) Making love together is very good for you!
But the friendship must be restored first. Say sorry. Forgive your spouse. Don't hurry love.
Discuss it. Most people crave intimacy. Don't be selfish. Don't be shy. There is an
emotional VIAGRA - Very Intimate Attention Gives Rising Affection!

5) Think what life-long marriage gives you
Your children (and grandchildren!) will be glad you stay together, and will learn from you.
Marriage can stop you being lonely in old age.
You will always be glad you tried your best in your marriage.

6) Ask for help sooner rather than later
Often another person can be a referee in our difficulties. A trusted friend or couple, a
Church Minister, or Marriage Counsellor can help you each see things you may not by
yourselves. Or they may just help you speak to each other politely for a while and say what
you really feel without interruption.
Many people have found that God can help too.
God, who invented marriage, said "A man leaves his father and mother and is united with
his wife, and they become one."

Hanji Ji tusi v view deo...ki force marriage or marriage under pressure teek a ??

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Punjabi Janta Forums - Janta Di Pasand · « **on:** June 27, 2012, 10:02:39 PM »

@SeKhOn@ · « **Reply #1 on:** June 28, 2012, 03:27:17 AM »

veere es krke ta sab to wadh tallak hunde ne ,,relation ohi wadiya chlda jis wch tuhada apna mann judya howe ,,, tuhade kuj emotions hon ,,,je ohna nu hi dba ke vihah kita jawe ,,,pher ja ta sari umar ghut ghut ke rehna painda ,,,ja pher ikale hi rehna painda ,,,

✿MeHaK✿ · « **Reply #2 on:** June 28, 2012, 04:46:27 AM »

What ever family do is great ik person lyi ghar de enne jee jina naal sari umar katti shadne hard that's what I think I don't know about others

●๋♥«╬ α๓๓γ Sï∂нบ «╬♥●๋ · « **Reply #3 on:** June 28, 2012, 05:07:44 AM »

i want to marry with my love forever and my best friend....but her parents is not accept. we are want to marry but with permission of parents , not like running from home....bcoz i and she does not want abusing her parents reputation... now. she and i will be commited in arrange marriage coming soon.........
its so painful for me and for her also....... but we cant do anything also.....
chahe meri arrange marriage ho v jawe..... after then v main osnu ohna hi chahunga, ona hi love krda rahunga jinna hun krda..... main hun tak os to bina apna future espect nhi kitaa...
but main kdi v osnu in the future love krno nhi hatunga......

ਕਰਮਵੀਰ ਸਿੰਘ · « **Reply #4 on:** June 28, 2012, 05:11:49 AM »

Ajeeb tane bane ne yaar kise pasyo soch k dekh lao sab kuj thik v lagda te sab kuj galat v banda kise natije te pohnch sakda

●๋♥«╬ α๓๓γ Sï∂нบ «╬♥●๋ · « **Reply #5 on:** June 28, 2012, 05:15:57 AM »

Quote from: ਕਰਮਵੀਰ ਸਿੰਘ on June 28, 2012, 05:11:49 AM

Ajeeb tane bane ne yaar kise pasyo soch k dekh lao sab kuj thik v lagda te sab kuj galat v banda kise natije te pohnch sakda

veer ... sahi kehnde a ...ishq wich judai pendi hi pendi a...
her parents is not ready and we ar want with permission ....
we love each other so muchh.... viah ke na sahi..... then ki hoya... kehnde pyaar mukaya nhi mukda.. viah to baad hi sahi.... i love her so much.,, and she loves me many more much than me .

ਕਰਮਵੀਰ ਸਿੰਘ · « **Reply #6 on:** June 28, 2012, 05:30:47 AM »

Good thinking aa bai ji k ik rishte khatir kai rishte na shadne pain par fer v sari umar ik " kyo" agge khadi rahegi

Wait kro thoda time onni der vyah na krao jad tak dilo naa ready ho jao te sab kuj sweekar na kar lao thodia galla to lagda tuc aje ready nai is tra te tuc apne naal hor zindgia v tbaah kar sakde o

@SeKhOn@ · « **Reply #7 on:** June 28, 2012, 05:38:22 AM »

everytime family is not rite ,,we have to take steps ,,its our life ,,we have to go thorugh it ,, if we cant take stand today ,,, then u never be make any good decision in life

●๋♥«╬ α๓๓γ Sï∂нบ «╬♥●๋ · « **Reply #8 on:** June 28, 2012, 05:48:40 AM »

Quote from: ਕਰਮਵੀਰ ਸਿੰਘ on June 28, 2012, 05:30:47 AM

Good thinking aa bai ji k ik rishte khatir kai rishte na shadne pain par fer v sari umar ik " kyo" agge khadi rahegi

Wait kro thoda time onni der vyah na krao jad tak dilo naa ready ho jao te sab kuj sweekar na kar lao thodia galla to lagda tuc aje ready nai is tra te tuc apne naal hor zindgia v tbaah kar sakde o

wait krn to baad da v result pta veer